Facebook Breeds Jealousy and False Picture of Real Life

                                                 by  Vic  Odarve

Although Facebook connects friendship; makes the world smaller, and other benefits; it also breeds jealousy and distorts a real life picture. Beautiful pictures, family successes, job satisfaction, spending vacations abroad, etc. posted in one’s wall often stir envy among your so called friends and close acquaintances. Facebook also gives a distorted picture of one’s real life; portrays only beautiful images in the posts and not even one of the failures. But we all know that life doesn’t always turn out that way, hence the so called friends get jealous and false picture of the real life.

Spending moments at Loay floating restaurant, Bohol, Philippines

Spending moments at Loay floating restaurant, Bohol, Philippines, May 21,2014.

Facebook stirs up an intense feeling of envy. We can see on posts routinely boasting beautiful house, brand new vehicles, successful children, and going on holidays abroad. Some previous schoolmates and friends, even posted a picture of driving a latest car model with a beautiful girlfriend. And so a comparison takes place. Comparing our friends’ achievements are normal — studies show that even monkeys and dogs measure themselves against their peers.

Constant updates may lead people compare with others and probably get more envious; learning about their achievements and overtake you even hit harder. As a result, depression, frustration, dissatisfaction, and other negative emotions set in. On Facebook, envy can proliferate much more easily because of links to other social media; thus, can make people feel much worse about their own lives.

Facebook gives us a false picture in our friends and relatives real life. They may be more likely to trumpet their successes than failures; put more photos and updates of their beautiful lives than moments of desperation. All these things generate an impression that they are living a much better life than their peers. Some friends

Engineering Math Class in action at Madonna University, Africa

Engineering Math Class in action at Madonna University, Africa

spend time creating their own profile, adding pictures and information about themselves to show the world their high profile in society. One thing is clear; they do not share pictures or information which puts their life in a negative light; in the process, giving a distorted scenario that what their life is really like.

One of my friends in Facebook looks very impressive; all pictures and achievements and successes in life everybody can admire of. But when I visited them a few days ago, his family seemed perfect; beautiful home with three kids, beautiful cars of latest model, beautiful wife managing a good company; everything as it would appear was perfect. And he was just promoted as an executive in a big company; his career in high gear. But spending a weekend with them, I noticed their family was not a happy one. There seemed to be a feeling of disunity among them, negative attitude of the children is clear, and love insecurity, etc.…. the wholesome relationship was obviously missing…an ingredient that cannot be filled up with all the material things

Gathering of pilgrims at the first week of the month at Elele Pilgrimage Center, Nigeria, Africa

Gathering of pilgrims every first week of the month at Elele Pilgrimage Center, Nigeria, Africa. The center draws around 2000 pilgrims lasting 3 day celebration.

and work successes they have possessed. All these negatives in life were not posted on Facebook… a good life picture in Facebook has been just a mere impression and nothing more.

Because people post beautiful pictures, achievements, and updates, Facebook breed jealousy and creates a false picture of reality which gives them the impression that everyone is living a much better life than they are.

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