Life is a Struggle

         By Vic Odarve

Life is a struggle whether one is poor, rich, and powerful. Poor people, which constitute the largest segment of the world’s population, have to struggle in order to meet both ends …foods, shelter, and education. Wealthy and the bigwigs of the society have to fight drugs, alcohol, relationship, sickness, and many more. World leaders, too, powerful as they look to be, have to struggle for the survival on their leadership due to political adversaries, deteriorating economy, and failed foreign policy. Whatever the colors and society, people must have to struggle in order to survive and prosper!

Life in the rural areas

         Life in the rural areas

According to a UN expert, nearly one-fifth of the world population or 1.4 billion people cannot fulfill the most basic needs every day. A few decades back poverty is concentrated in rural areas in most developing countries, but a recent study showed that urban poverty is also increasing as fast as cities are growing. These areas are refugees of drug addicts, criminals, and many epidemics that ravage a nation wholesome environments. Inadequate access to safe water, poor sanitation, overcrowding, and insecure residential status make the poor people’s life a miserable!

Living in an overcrowded city, this kid struggles to learn computer

Living in an overcrowded city, this kid struggles to learn computer

Life struggle does not spare the rich and famous. Although not on basic needs, they suffer in life lingering sickness, drugs, alcohol, relationships, and scandals. Singer Celine Dion is struggling in pain trying to make the best of last Christmas with cancer-stricken husband Rene, who is now battling a throat cancer for the last two years. Steve Jobs, the founder of Apple, had reached the pinnacle of success in the business world but ended his life struggling from pancreatic cancer in 2011.  A few years back, the singer-actor Chan, son of Jackie Chan pleaded guilty in a Beijing court for providing a venue for drug users and was sentenced to six months in jail. Life is a struggle, poor and rich alike!

Russian President Putin

Russian President Putin struggles on his foreign policy

History always reminds us that in order to survive and sustain their autocratic governance leaders have to struggle to stay in power. Countries like Russia, North Korea, and China, the leaders have  to consolidate their power with super wealthy backers, torture political opponents in jail at a moment’s notice, and maintain secret agents. Putin, for example, also struggles over his foreign policy in Syria and Ukraine, a problem on oil’s freefall causing the ruble to crash and slamming Russia with a depression. The lives of these leaders are in deep trouble and struggling in pain.

There is no way to avoid the struggles in life. And in every struggle, there is heartbreak, emotional trauma, and setback. But all these things can make people stronger and better.

Believe it or not, human struggle ends when life ends.


Ideal Family; an Elusive Dream

                                                By Vic Odarve

Although all families can be strong and healthy, only a few seem to have it “together” while other families seem to struggle in pain in keeping their own. An ideal family is a place of love whose members are bonded together by cheerful and loving parents, socially and academically successful children. The family members share pleasant things and work as a unit, and parents manage disagreements constructively through effective communication. But in the real world, only a few succeeded; for others, an ideal family remains a dream and imagination.

Picnic together

Picnic together

In an ideal family, parents as prime mover must provide comfort and emotionally fulfill to all members. They must be cheerful and loving and spend a positive time together with the kids, and in the process build their wonderful feelings and relationship. Talking, planning, and working certain things together build  strong family ties. Since every individual is unique and disagreements arise, conflicts must be dealt constructively. Effective communication provides an emotional and sound environment.

Outstanding family results in a well knitted and strong children’s relationship bonded together by love. They look their parents as a model. They should love each other the same as their father loves their mother. They learn how their parents do everything to keep the family connected and bonded together; how activities are managed and controlled to make the world going around harmoniously.

Mayana Village  with all of its beautiful sunsets

Mayana Village with all of its beautiful sunsets

But in married life, it is not always a picture of beautiful sunsets; sometimes the journey is rough and temptation abounds along the way. When I visited a friend of mine a few days ago, his family seemed perfect; the beautiful home with three kids, beautiful cars of the latest model, beautiful wife managing a good company; everything as it would appear was perfect. And he was just promoted to an executive in a big company; his career in high gear. But spending a weekend with them, I noticed their family was not a happy one. There seemed to be a feeling of disunity among them, negative attitude of the children is clear, and love insecurity, etc.…. The wholesome relationship was obviously missing… an ingredient that cannot be filled up with all the material things and work successes they have possessed.

Sometimes couples’ relationship and life satisfaction set off to its lowest point; turns sour, humiliation, distress, troubling, sleepless nights, and if not well attended, ended in divorce and separation. Even kings, princes, and celebrities in our society separated their wives or husbands one after the other. In 1527 King Henry VIII of

Happy moment

A happy moment

England, after feeling dissatisfaction in giving birth to his wife, a son, separated his wife Catherine and married Anne Boleyn. This act was not approved by Rome and after years of conflicting views, England established their own Anglican Church. There are celebrities, too, that have been very successful in their careers, but not so successful with their marriages. One of them is famous Elizabeth Taylor, who has taken sacred vows eight times, and still found the ideal family elusive.

Henceforth, for several people the search for ideal family exists only in imagination. The commitment of love and dedication for husband and wife and children is simply out of the spectrum; numerous culprits wreak havoc on the relationship which finally leads to an ugly end… to divorce and separation. When parents separate, it creates a great pain in the whole family, but as time passes, children learn to adjust and understand that family life is not at all ideal!