Parental Love…A Love That a Child Needs

                                                                By Vic Odarve

As a child is being brought forth to the earth and say “hello world”, it is normally a joyous occasion. This is a moment when parental love begins and expands from there as the days go on. Parental love is defined as the affection that comes from a mother, father or guardian. It comprises of supports and guidance and discipline. And above all, these affections and guidance or support is unconditional and unwavering dedication to their children. Parental love… is a love that every child needs.

Parents and Children at Mayana Fiesta clebration, May 15, 2014

Odarve’s Clan at Mayana Fiesta celebration, May 15, 2014

Parents, usually the mother, feel the fondness and tenderness of the child at the moment of their birth; cradling a tiny newborn child in their arms demonstrates of a true joy of womanhood. It is a wonderful experience.. that is, giving birth to another life. A kiss on the cheeks, picking them when they are crying and keep dancing until they fell asleep and breastfeed when they get hungry are the demonstration of affection. Parents make them feel secure and loved. The compassion and love of a mother to her child is

Atong and Isaiah under the watchful eyes of their grandma

Atong and Isaiah under the watchful eyes of their grandma

beyond measure. In biblical times, two women ask Solomon to resolve a conflict. Each bore a son, but one son has passed away. Each woman claims the living child to be her own. So difficult to decide who is the true mother that King Solomon orders that the boy be cut in half and shared. The first woman agrees while the other begs Solomon instead to give the child to her rival. Solomon, being a wise king, awards the unharmed child to the woman who was willing to sacrifice her claim to save the boy’s life. The reason is clear: Her compassion and love for the child proved her to be the rightful mother. Mother’s affection to her child is so strong that she just wants to see her child alive no matter what!

Parental love means supporting and

Parental love declines as children start to have their own

Parental love declines as children start to have their own

prepares the child for the future. The study shows that the first three years of a child’s life are crucial; the child will develop significant intellectual, emotional and social abilities. This means they are learning gradually; confidence, security, and empathy. At this stage, our guidance and support are much needed but becomes lesser as they grow older. Supports must be consistent; offer words of encouragement and wisdom play an important role. These things will take shape on their future and guide them to become happy and productive citizens. The way how parents bring up the child reflects our love to them. Parents are doing whatever they can… moving heaven and earth to meet the basic demands of the kids, including a proper training. Supports decline when children move out of the family to form his own.
Parental love is an unconditional love and support; that is, not expecting something in return. It is unwavering love and dedication from parents to the children, nurturing and guide their physical, mental and spiritual growth. It is where a deep emotional connection develops; a bond with children that lasts a lifetime. Discipline, while viewing as unpleasant by some children, as long as appropriate and consistent limits for her child demonstrates love. Some kids don’t understand right away, but only later as they grow older and grows upwards. Parents want to ensure the overall health of the child. A parent wants kids to get upward to be responsible, productive, kind and God fearing. Parents always wish for their children’s happiness in a preparation for letting them loose and make the own way of living – and for good. We don’t own our children, we are only their stewards. We will eventually have to set them free. Love for the child is so overwhelming that no matter what the child does, he will always be loved.
Nurturing a child is like training for the future. “Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old, he will not depart from it.” Proverbs 22:6. Parents always wish for their happiness, peace and harmony. Children need to be loved. Like water lilies and sparrows, they have right to live and be happy. It validates their existence on this planet, making them feel like they are appreciated for who they are. It is an everlasting legacy the parents left behind.

Parental love knows no boundaries. Even the Lord Jesus loves kids. He got angry with his disciples when he noticed that little children were not allowed to come closer to him. Instead, He took the children in his arms and laying his hands on them, blessed them. Consider the passages from Mark 10:13-16

“13 People were bringing their little children with him to have him touch them, and the disciples rebuked them for this.
14 When Jesus noticed it, he was very angry and said, “Let the children come to me and don’t stop them, for the kingdom of God belongs to such as these.
15 Truly, I say to you, whoever does not receive the kingdom of God like a child will not enter it.”
16 Then he took the children in his arms and laying his hands on them, blessed them.

It is a parental love…. a love that child needs.